Stress management for married men is much easier than for the average stay- home mother and homemaker. Why? Because working men can, more often than not, get away from the stresses of raising children, and dealing with the sensitive problems of home. Men generally have the opportunity to be alone and find time to touch base again with their inner selves and their inner silence.

Of course women are working at the office or in the field more, at the same time men are staying home with the kids – but still, the vast majority of home in the western world have a working father and a homemaker being Mom.

So with the extra time alone, men have the chance to get away for some peace of quiet. But alas! There are reasons why men suffer from anxiety as well.

Young Married Men Who Suffer From Anxiety

Unfortunately younger men often make bad choices such as drinking or recreational drugs, lack of sleep, and bad company – period.

Young men who suffer from anxiety, some would ask?! (and I’ve been there) You would think unlikely, but all it’s takes is a vivid imagination and some basic perceptions out of whack from reality, and young men can easily find themselves in the midst of high anxiety, panic attacks, and depression.

Never forget that young men have allot of pressure (self applied and society applied) to deal with. Jobs, education, earnings, parental expectations, and mating competition, add to the pressures on young men, and when you see the reality of these pressures, you can easily see how young men can fall to worry and fear.

For young men they are not well served to be “out of loop” in their community, or move away from their home base, and surely being out of their supportive community.

If a young man is married with children he can be under a HUGE amount of the pressure to stay in a job that he may hate, feed his children, and support his family. Young women also work more and more, and the amount of duel income homes is increasing steadily. Nevertheless, in the breakdown of stress in American homes, young men are not immune due to perceived ideas of their personal freedoms and carefree lifestyle.

In fact, I remember being a young man, when I overheard a group of ladies dining and talking. They were talking about how easy it is to be man, and basically they had no mercy for any kind of plight a young man might be facing.

If you are a young man suffering from anxiety, or know someone who is a young man suffering from anxiety, you can overcome stress and anxiety with some simple actions.

• make sure you AVOID getting wrapped in your self image. Don’t judge yourself on societal standards, such as how much money you make, what kind of degree you have, where you work, what your new wife or girlfriend looks like, what kind of car you drive, and what kind of home you have. This kind of thinking is purely egoic and WILL cause you and those around you to suffer.
• clean up your so-called friend base. Realize who your real friends are and avoid all of those who are only interested in a party, or superficial distractions. You will find the madness and chaos in your life will decrease dramatically with this advice.
• avoid substances that run down your energy levels – alcohol in excess, nicotine in excess, food in excess, drugs in excess.
• get your sleep even if you think your young body can “handle it”

Middle Aged Married Men Who Suffer From Anxiety

Middle aged men have a better opportunity to reduce their anxiety because they may have more time to work with. More time perhaps because children are ususally out of the house and living on their own.

The stress management plan for reducing anxiety in Mom’s and homemakers is a challenge due the amount of time our dearest Mom’s of society give SO much of their time and life to their children and the family unit. The challenge here is TIME and SPACE.

This is the toughest life situation to handle if you want to find reduce anxiety. Mothers are the only TRUE warriors of the world. Being a Mom is a quest and a mission from God. Society must learn to support and understand the Mother’s need more support. Everyday that you get through as a Mother is nothing less than God’s grace in action.

Without going into great lengths on the plight (and blessing) of being a Mom, let’s get into the reality of a true anxiety reduction plan and management system.

Clearing Time and Space and How To Make the Very Best of Free Time

Finding the time to read, listen to inspirational DVDs, go for a walk, meditate, do Yoga, Tia chi, etc., is difficult for a busy Mother and homemaker, but it can be done right NOW.

The trick is sleep. You must organize your day and nights around your sleep and alone time. If you are a single mother, and have children who are still at home and not in school, the challenge is the greatest. If you can find ANY help from friends, family members, or babysitters be sure to do it.

You will have learn to stop wasting time watching hours and hours of TV, or socializing at length. They key is getting to bed at an early hour so you can get up early before the sun comes up and your world gets noisy and busy again.

Get up at least 1-2 hours before your children wake up and get your invaluable alone time. In that alone time you are going read books, watch videos, listen to audio programs, and find your inner stillness again – in other words, find yourself again.

If you drop everything and get to bed early and do this you will create plan and routine whereby you are always connected to yourself throughout the day. The first thing to do is begin reading important works of literature that begin guiding you to enlightenment. I recommend Michael Bernard Beckwith’s “Spiritual Liberation”, Wayne Dyer’s “Power of Intention”, and Eckhart Tolle’s “A New Earth”. If you read these three books twice (or three times) each you will begin to see a strange and beautiful shift in your consciousness. I really didn’t notice a difference until I read these 3 books twice each, and listened to their audio CDs.

If you cannot find this time to commune with stillness of the morning sunset, then at least buy these audio programs for you car, and begin the journey. You will learn why you are stressed, and how to reduce your stress to a very low level.

The meditation, yoga, exercise, and/or Tia Chi will come after you are well on your spiritual journey of enlightenment, but first you need to reprogram yourself back to the perfect being you REALLY are. These teaching will guide you to yourself again – I guarantee it. (this is a non-profit site for anxiety reduction – we do not make any money from our recommendations)

You will be reunited with your TRUE essence which lies DEEP into the stillness of your body temple, and learn to turn off your worried mind and defuse your dramatic ego. You will learn to appreciate the most mundane tasks, and understand how lucky you really are, even amidst the most stress filled and anxious situations in daily life.

Until you make the time during the morning hours to commune with stillness, and turn OFF your minds busy thinking patterns, you will not reduce your anxiety enough to make a lasting difference. Yes, you can exercise all you want, and that will help with your anxiety, but it’s not going to fully bring you “out of your mind”.

I know it sounds a little strange but you want to go “out of your mind”. That is where the reality of peace, stillness, silence, and universal energy is noticed. This is when you can feel your true self.

Mothers Sometimes Have To Be Very Creative

So in the above I give a quick example on how to and where to find time for yourself, but that just might not work for you. I would suggest that if you don’t have time to read, be sure to listen to the audio books that I mentioned above. If you do it in the car, you are not losing a second of time, because you have to drive sometimes right.

Once you digest all this material you will start seeing a change in how you feel. You will have a big reduction in anxiety, and you will have your old self back.

If you want to see a considerable reduction in anxiety you have to find some sort of stress management system to practice. I don’t mean buying some kind of product, because everything you need to reduce extreme anxiety is on the Internet for free.

If you have ever experienced a full blown panic attack before you will be VERY motivated to find a way to reduce your stress significantly, and bring an End To Suffering as The Buddha called it.

In this new century we are seeing and large increase in the numbers of people suffering from stress and anxiety. It’s pretty well an epidemic, and there is a reason for it, but right now we just want to discuss the correct way to reduce your anxiety through a stress management plan. First let’s discuss how to create your OWN stress management plan.

Stress Management Plan for Anxiety Reduction

The problem with the current western medical profession is that there is very little in the way of providing a reduction in anxiety of people (not going to call anxiety sufferers patients because is suggested there is something wrong with you, where the is not) – except for anti-anxiety medication. Why? Because every person is different and every person has a different lifestyle, with different life experiences and a different personal view point. So how could anyone make a pill or medication that can fix EVERYONE like an antibiotic for a simple infection.

So you can create your own custom stress management plan based on your schedule, lifestyle, and “life situation”. Below is a list of lifestyle situations and I hope there is example that is very similar to yours.

• married mother and homemaker
• married fathers
• single woman living with or without roommates employee
• single man living with or without roommates employee
• teenager/young adult employee
• teenager/young adult unemployed
• business owner(s)
• retired man over the age of 50
• retired woman over the age of 50

We will discuss the different stress management plans best suited for the above basic life situation. Click the links for each example.

I’ve started a new category called “Tip of the Hat” whereby I will introduce a good post on how to manage stress, anxiety, fatigue, and depression.

My first Tip of the Hat goes out to a post written on the Natural Holistic Health Blog. The post is called Managing Adult Emotions, and I think you will enjoy it.

There are some very good point made here and I would like to highlight them. The focus of the article is understanding your feelings and emotions. As I’ve mentioned in some of my commentary on getting in touch with your inner dialogue, it’s the first step to getting control of life.

So a tip of hat goes to Dr. Dee at the Natural Holistic Health Blog today.

Jacob

Having faith is one the best ways battle stress and anxiety. If you truly believe in a higher power, religion, or God, it helps immensely. In my opinion it doesn’t matter which faith it is, as long as you know that your spirit is eternally connected to universal source energy.

You can find some web sites that give you tips and lists using Christian methods of reducing stress. You can find a massive amount of information online regarding the use of faith for stress relief.

I was raised as a Christian do believe that Jesus is the son of God, but I think we are all children of God. It’s just most Christian followers believe that Jesus is a divine son of God. There are allot of different opinions on this one isn’t there?

I’ve found some peace of mind reading scriptures from all religions and faiths. There is a great divide between the followers of the different religions, and it’s too bad. Some believers are adamant that their faith is the only faith, when I believe all faith based religions are reaching to the same universal source of all.

The new age movement is all about the same belief. Buddha was around for thousands of years before Christ, but most of the messages and teachings are the same. Same the Koran and Mohammad. This would spark a furious debate is we were sitting in a room full of followers all these religions. When this world truly starts to unite, it will be when followers of all religions realize they have been worshipping the very same God – the universal energy of love, kindness, compassion, and beauty.

When you use your faith to calm your nerves and calm those around you, you are acting directly in line with source energy. The fine art of forgiveness, and the understanding that all form in the world is simply a visual illusion that we humans see and undertand, then you can relieve allot of worldly stress.

When we tap into our true calling of spirit, and stop looking at ourselves on the basis of form, we can conquer all fear and stress. Eckhart Tolle’s book “A New Earth” is one of the big break through books for believers of the new age movement. I believe that Eckhart’s theories, Deepak Chopra’s theories, and Wayne Dyer’s theories all mirror the same awakening. I think we’ll see many great religions of dogma and guilt begin to collapse over the next 50 years. The true meaning of spiritual connection is upon us now and it’s getting very exciting.

I can see a day when stress, anxiety, depression, and chronic sadness are extremely rare. There will be a day when school curriculum will have a great deal of content regarding peace of mind, spiritual connection, and faith in everything we experience.

I’ll be long gone when the new world is realized, but I think we’ll see far less violence, greed, and anger around the globe. In a few hundred years this earth will be a completely transformed place. Anxiety and fear will almost eradicated. There will some day be a heaven on earth reality.

It’s only us humans are the animals that need to get in touch with spiritual energy as a whole. Animal, plants, and insects are perfectly tuned into source. It’s the great humane experiment that is taking ALLOT of time to develop.

On a personal note, I believe that we have to be our own heroes and trust in our own basic instincts. You want to know what your basic insticts are? When you are helping someone, being kind, helpful, compassionate, forgiving, and loving – you are in sync with universal love and in purpose.

I’m not a huge fan of Oprah, but I believe she is on the right track with all her spiritual work she has been involved with. In her own right, Oprah has become a teacher to millions of people around the world.

Sources:

• Eckhart Tolle’s Dimension Within
• God Ask Do You Think It’s Too Difficult
• It’s About Faith Stupid

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