When it comes to stress and worry my Achilles heal has always been money. Since I was 21 years old I have been petrified of being poor, and without any source of income. There is a reason for this too. I left home at 18 years old, and unlike my peers I didn’t care about making money – I just wanted to play music, hang out with my friends, and smoke weed. I look back on the kid and shake my head still.

I instantly went from living in a middle class house with my parents to living in extremely run-down apartment buildings surrounded by others who were very poor, on welfare, assistance…….and of course drugs and alcohol. I learned very quickly what the world looks like when you are on the bottom of the money ladder. Continue Reading »

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Hi, your website is very comforting.  I  greatly experienced love and God’s presence in my youth and early 20′s. I had a hard road in some ways but it was all paved with love and beauty so I could endure it. After 3 children, my husband being a military man working 90+ hour weeks, and 5 cross-the-globe moves to try to get better hours for him, my body was completely exhausted.

I had my 1st panic attack after my husband told me we needed to file for bankruptcy because he had hidden debts from me so I wouldn’t be worried. That was in the winter of 2002.  I’ve read a lot of success books after that to find out what I was doing wrong which the law of attraction.  Before, when I had a bad thought, I could just let it pass and not let it affect me but then I became afraid I was attracting bad things to my loved ones. Continue Reading »

Hi all – thanks for dropping by. Lot of questions about Paxil side effects here.

My experience and what my doctor said would happen was the same. I thought Paxil was making me tired, and indeed it was because it was forcing me to start slowing down.

Paxil needs at least one and half weeks to kick in. I honestly believe that 90% of people saying they have side effects are telling themselves something bad is going to happen, which is what we do when we are badly stressed. We convince ourselves that something is wrong, when in reality nothing is wrong. We convince ourselves that there are problems, when there are no problems. Only situations (Eckhart Tolle).

I have had all of the symptoms described above whenever I started Paxil, and I had to wait it out for 2 weeks before everything came back into focus again.

I’ve heard people say that Paxil where off after so many years, but my doctor says that is incorrect. I have never found that to be the case. HOWEVER, if you are on a low dose like me at 10mg a day, and you have stressful “things” happening in your life, you can still fall into extreme anxiety – I did two weeks ago. Paxil is not the end all solution – it can help.

It always comes down to one thing (on meds or off) – don’t take your mind seriously. When it worries – laugh at it. When your mind tries to convice you that something bad is going to happen – ignore it.

I always tell people I know whenever they are stressed,

“Your mind can’t be trusted”

It’s true. Your mind is a simple tool that the ego works with to create deception, fear and misery. The ego loves the mind because it can be controlled and upset. The REAL you is NOT your mind, although you have be taught to believe that.

Laugh at your bad thoughts. When you hear a good thought, your are starting to here reality again coming through the fog.

Why is Buddha always laughing in pictures and statues? He’s laughing because he knows what is real. He is giggling at the insanity of mind and ego. We can also snicker at our worried mind. We have to stop taking ourselves so seriously. We are by nature still and at peace, but we have forgotten that.

Fear is fantasy. Peace is the light.

No go out for a walk and be sure to stop, sit in the grass, and put your hands deep into the grass. Remember when you were a bored kid sitting in the school field at some event, laying back on your hands in the grass?

It’s still the same. This is real. This earth is turning and you are here for a short visit. We are all going to die sometime – tomorrow, next year, or in 40 years. It’s not a problem – nothing is problem. Losing a job, house, marriage, loved one, or your body is not a problem. Your mind tells you it is a problem. Society tells us it is a problem, but it’s not a problem.

Whatever you are fearing is not a problem. Our ego can’t except loss of anything and our minds will dance with our ego into it’s own creation of hell.

Go downtown and find the crippled man laying in the street – stop, smile at him and say a kind word to him. You will see for the moment your anxiety vanish. When we are SELF absorbed we worry. When we are loving other life forms we are in tune again with our true selves.

Banish your mind and ego. Just use your mind to buy groceries, go to work, play with the kids, drive your car, brush your teeth, and go to bed. That’s all you have to do – just BE.

You don’t need to BE anything in this world, and you need to have anything either. Just be.
Be mindless for a few minutes a day.

Oh….and and just to remind you…………………….you are not terminally ill and you are NOT going to die.

Jacob

If you already take Paxil everyday (and maybe have been for years) you will one day run out of the prescription and need it re-filled. If you find that you have mood swings, and tend to be a little bit anxious (maybe a little depressed too) when you are starting the new bottle, then you are not alone. I get this every time I start a new bottle of Paxil pills. No big deal.

I’m only taking 10 mg each morning between 7:30 AM and 9:30 AM, but the mood swing is always the same when the old bottle is empty and the new bottle starts. Why? Read on.

Every batch of generic Paxil is a little bit different when it comes of the manufactures line and therefore your dosage will be a wee bit different than the last bottle you had, which would be from a completely different batch. It usually takes me about 1 week to sort of calm down after starting the new bottle.

So try not to stress out – your serotonin levels are readjusting, but you will be fine – just try to relax and in a week you be all back on track again.

I have long been trying to change my attitude regarding perfectionism. I’m beginning to understand how to deal with this issue and it always comes back to giving in and letting – which is difficult for someone who thinks they can manipulate all of the form around them (this includes human forms as well) so they can appear to be perfect in every way. Just thinking of an attitude like this makes me cringe, but yet I am as guilty as anyone when it comes to this kind of mindset. Continue Reading »

It doesn’t really matter who you read, watch, or listen to for guidance when it comes to relaxing – in the end it comes down to one thing and one thing only – turning off your mind.

There are plenty of ways to turn off your mind, and we all use them collectively as the great and wonderful human race. This is the short short short list; Continue Reading »

Lately we had some personal issues that were very stressful and again I started getting some of the usual symptoms of high anxiety. I tried all of the usual methods and thinking processes but was still struggling. I flipped through my books, watched my videos, and listened to audio books – still never really getting it under control.

What finally got it all under control was the classic thought process of detachment and “being the witness”. ”Being the witness” means sort of imagine a kind and loving witness watching you and keeping you safe. Continue Reading »